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Change can also be messy and slow, but also worth it.
Individual counseling with Jenni always includes listening carefully to your story, validating your experiences, and empowering your growth. Sometimes you might want to talk through and process what going on; sometimes you might want some direction. Jenni does both and infuses individual therapy with a mixture of calm presence and tailored frameworks/strategies so you can get the most out of your quest for change as possible. Jenni is far more than a "Tell me what you're feeling," kind of therapist (although she's been known to say that!). She's in it with you, helping you craft your healing in a way that feels authentic and leads to the goals you've set for yourself.
What can couples expect to gain from discernment counseling?
Clarity and confidence about next steps for their relationship
A deeper understanding of what has happened to their relationship and each person’s contributions to the problems
What does discernment counseling involve?
How many sessions are there?
Discernment counseling can be as brief as one session and as long as five sessions. You decide each time whether to come back for a subsequent session. The sessions are usually 1.5- 2 hours.
Is discernment counseling suitable for every couple?
One partner has made an final decision to end the relationship and only wants counseling to encourage the other spouse accept that decision
One partner is coercing the other to participate via threats of any kind
There is a danger of domestic violence
When there is an Order of Protection from a court.
The New Approach for Couples on the Brink
For more information, please check out DC at www.discernmentcounseling.com. The following information comes directly from that website.
Discernment counseling is a way for couples to look at their options before making a final decision about divorce. It is most appropriate for couples where one partner wants to preserve and repair the relationship and the other is leaning towards ending it. Research shows that this kind of “mixed agenda” is common among couples approaching divorce, and there is a dearth of special services for them. It’s also a common (and difficult) presentation in couples counseling.
Discernment counseling differs from regular marriage counseling in three ways: a) the goal is not to solve problems in the relationship, but to figure out whether the problems can be solved; b) the process involves mainly individual conversations with each partner, since they each have different needs and agendas, and c) it is always short term.
Couples counseling is for couples who have identified some issues in their relationship (like communication, intimacy, trust, parenting, financial, etc.) and are interested in making changes to how they do things.
Jenni is trained as a family systems therapist and can help couples reconnect, change their communication, and regain trust. Jenni often uses her exclusive Relationship Consulting process to help couples identify and prioritize issues they want to work on.
What can couples expect to gain from decoupling counseling?
Clarity and confidence about how they want to proceed with the breakup.
A deeper understanding of what happened to the relationship.
An opportunity to make amends or provide clarifying information.
A process during which each partner's emotional health is paramount and, if applicable, a focus is put on young or adult children in the family.
What does decoupling counseling involve?
Decoupling Counseling involves individual time for each partner to meet with the therapist, as well as joint sessions with both partners and the therapist. It also involves a written understanding/agreement that no legal advice will be given and none of the information disclosed or discussed in sessions is going to be used in a divorce/legal separation proceeding
How many sessions are there?
Decoupling counseling can be as brief as one session and as long as you want. You decide each time whether to come back for a subsequent session. The sessions are usually 1-1.5 hours. Typically, I will want to meet with each partner separately, FIRST. Then we will come together as a group to figure out what needs to be discussed and processed.
Is decoupling counseling suitable for every couple?
There is a danger or history of domestic violence
There is a control dynamic or individuals aren't able to manage anger or sarcasm in session
When there is an Order of Protection from a court
Decoupling Counseling is for couples who have made the decision to permanently separate or divorce.
Decoupling Counseling can make a HUGE difference in your relationship post-breakup.
Decoupling Counseling can help couples co-create a narrative of the breakup that doesn't demonize or victimize either party in such a way that it will harm children or other family members. Decoupling Counseling is a unique opportunity to minimize emotional trauma while, at the same time, providing each partner a sturdy base from which to move on.
A Divorce Coach is a specially trained divorce professional who takes you from where you are now, and helps you get to where you want to be once your divorce is over.
A Coparenting Coach helps parents learn new strategies for communicating about the children, set new and different boundaries with each other, establish a narrative for the children that helps them preserve their good memories of the family, and create new protocols for working together in the future.
Jenni provides coaching services to individuals and couples who have specific issues related to parenting, divorce, post-divorce, and high-conflict relationships.
Who is coaching for?
Coaching is appropriate for people who:
What happens in a coaching session?
Coaching helps with specific, real-time issues related to relationships, whether they are person, familial, or professional. In a coaching session, Jenni will learn what specific issue has arisen and will talk with you about some alternative techniques or strategies for handling that issue so you can reduce your stress.