Decoupling Counseling is for couples who have made the decision to permanently separate or divorce.
Decoupling Counseling can make a HUGE difference in your relationship post-breakup.
Decoupling Counseling can help couples co-create a narrative of the breakup that doesn't demonize or victimize either party in such a way that it will harm children or other family members. Decoupling Counseling is a unique opportunity to minimize emotional trauma while, at the same time, providing each partner a sturdy base from which to move on.
WHAT CAN COUPLES EXPECT TO GAIN FROM DECOUPLING COUNSELING?
Clarity and confidence about how they want to proceed with the breakup.
A deeper understanding of what happened to the relationship.
An opportunity to make amends or provide clarifying information.
A process during which each partner's emotional health is paramount and, if applicable, a focus is put on young or adult children in the family.
WHAT DOES DISCERNMENT COUNSELING INVOLVE?
Decoupling Counseling involves individual time for each partner to meet with the therapist, as well as joint sessions with both partners and the therapist. It also involves a written understanding/agreement that no legal advice will be given and none of the information disclosed or discussed in sessions is going to be used in a divorce/legal separation proceeding.
HOW MANY SESSIONS ARE THERE?
Discernment counseling can be as brief as one session and as long as you want. You decide each time whether to come back for a subsequent session. The sessions are usually 1-1.5 hours. Typically, I will want to meet with each partner separately, FIRST. Then we will come together as a group to figure out what needs to be discussed and processed.
Decoupling Counseling is NOT suitable when:
There is a danger or history of domestic violence
There is a control dynamic or individuals aren't able to manage anger or sarcasm in session
When there is an Order of Protection from a court